I am really pissed off at someone right now. Why do we let people treat us like...ANYTHING! Why do we do that to ourselves? And the worse we do is, we stop valuing us just because someone else don't think we are WORTH anything!
I am just getting sick and tired of all this! I don't want to take it anymore. I don't want to feel worthless every passing day of my life! I just want to do something to feel better and insha Allah i will do that soon. Guess it's time to get a new job or hit the gym.
For my readers please keep me in your prayers :)
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ReplyDeleteIn today’s material society, we put value on everything we own; but do we do not value ourselves. The dictionary defines the word value as worth in usefulness or importance to the possessor. The dictionary defines importance as significance. So value equals significance. Many people feel this insignificance. Our lacking self-value begins in childhood. Not yet concerned about appearing selfish, young children know and ask incessantly for what they want. But in our attempts to teach them generosity and unselfishness, we sometimes make them feel guilty for staying true to their own needs, influencing their self values, self-respect and the principles by which they judge themselves.
As we grow up, our negative self-respect is expanded upon by people we admire, and by companies marketing products that, according to them, we will not be complete without.
As grown-ups, we often choose to do things for others that we really don’t want to do because we fear being criticized as selfish or uncaring. Acting out of duty or obligation leaves us feeling resentful inside, and we bury these feelings.
Finally, we wake up one day, feeling disconnected from ourselves and we have given up our power, we often no longer really feel anything. We have given it up to the television, that has laugh tracks for us; we have given it up to the medical doctors, who because of time constraints and education sometimes no longer treat the whole patient (spiritually, emotionally and physically), and we often have given it up to our family and friends, who, with the best intentions, control us most of the time, take advantage of us and send us negative messages about our dreams. We are consistently eaten away, little pieces at a time, making us feel more disconnected, lost and devalued.
When negativity comes at us in little bites, we often don’t see what is happening to us until it has done its damage. Then we start to live in fear. Fear to let go of what we know, and fear to become who we really are.
This leads to one of the great struggles about being human—choosing how to live a life that is compatible with our ideas of why we live. Usually there is great conflict between our ideals and our impulses. We want to be a kind loving person, but we also want to hurt the person who was just cruel to us. We want to care for the earth, but we also want convenience and comfort.
We are in our own company all of the time, no vacations or breaks, so we must do our best to create a person we like to be with 24/7. If we were able to live in a stress-free body that is as physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy as we can make it, we could achieve this. However, because extreme stress, incredible demands that are self-imposed and guilt messages, are imbedded within our soul and cause massive insignificance, this goal is difficult.
Valuing yourself is not the way others see you; it is the way you see yourself. You are the only source of your significance. Therefore, you are the only person who has the power to make you feel good about you.
you can re-evaluate yourself as an adult, with adult standards, and create a positive self-image. Self-respect is a blend of internal confidence, external achievements, and compassion for yourself.
Byeeeeeeee..
Well...thank you so much for such a detailed explanation my friend, much appreciated :)
ReplyDeleteBut the thing is when you do it with all your heart and still you get to hear mean things than it hurts a lot. Loved your ending lines..."Valuing yourself is not the way others see you; it is the way you see yourself. You are the only source of your significance." I'll try to keep that in my mind in future. Thanks a lot! Keep visiting :)